Fairy Garden: Tripping Through Thyme!

I feel like a little girl again. Perhaps an “old” little girl who appreciates detail, beauty, and meaning.

My fairies arrived yesterday. I feel certain all the neighbors on Elsie Street heard my excited child’s squeal when I saw the box from amazon on my porch. “My fai-ries!”

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I got the idea of creating a fairy garden from my sister. She’s a master gardener and was doing some spring refreshing of her lovely yard and decided to build a fairy garden. I’d never heard of that, but I thought about it and decided it would be a fun thing to do, something we could build together and compare—her in Memphis, me in Nashville. So I did a quick Amazon search, settled on a few cute fairies, and jumped into this brand new world.

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I was expecting three four-inch, doll-like, winged creatures—cute, colorful, a nice addition to the little garden I’d prepared with herbs and perennial flowers and a tiny cottage and rocks I’ve collected on summer trips. I got far more. I have stumbled into a whole fairy realm of beauty. My fairies are collectibles designed by Cicely Mary Barker. They can hang as ornaments or become part of a special garden, sitting on wire picks provided. There are books and prints and poems.

I am deep into this. I woke up at two this morning thinking about my fairies.

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Cicely Mary Barker was born in 1895 in Croydon, South London and received her education at home due to ill health. She taught herself to draw and paint and first published a set of postcards when she was sixteen. The publication of a series of Flower Fairies books beginning in 1923 brought her international acclaim as an artist. She produced charming Flower Fairies, botanically accurate illustrations, and accompanying storylike verses. How could I have not known about her works? I must have been reading too much of Alcott and Brink.

My first three fairies are Willow Tree, Wild Thyme, and Elder Flower. Willow looks like a dragonfly.

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By the peaceful stream or the shady pool
I dip my leaves in the water cool.
Over the water I lean all day,
Where the sticklebacks and the minnows play.

I am shaping this year to be my creative year. Creative with words, yes. But also I plan to get out my oils and paint a mystical Delta scene on canvas. And now I am immersed in creating magical worlds of fairies and flowers—new little friends to visit each morning in my garden.

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I know a bank where the wild thyme blows,
Where oxlips and the nodding violet grows,
Quite over-canopied with luscious woodbine,
With sweet musk-roses and with eglantine.
[Shakespeare’s A Midsummer Night’s Dream]


I Love It When…

Some people think I’m a negative type of person. I say I’m a realist. I see the whole picture. I see the bad and the good. It’s just that when I talk or write, I tend to go for the bad. Because the good is the good and we don’t need to do anything about that, but the bad could use a little thought and work.

C’mon, people, give me a break here. If a person is a writer, there has to be bad (conflict) spoken of or there’s no story or fullness of life. There’s nothing to work with…without the bad.

I also see the good in the bad and the potential for positive to come from it. When you think about it, that’s what life is made of. Bad things happen to us all, eventually. And we learn to shoulder into them and grow and become stronger and better people.

As a part of my growing and becoming a stronger and better person, even though I’m old as dirt now, I’ve decided to focus on the good for a while. ‘Bout time, huh? Last week on Easter I vowed to find something good and positive every single day and write and speak of it on Facebook.

These are the things I’m thankful for. These are the things that bring me joy and happiness and smiles. As I used to say as a teenager, “I’m so excited!” Here is my first week:

April 6, 2015
“I LOVE IT WHEN…” (after a grateful Easter holiday, I hope to make this a daily activity!) my kindergarten grandson opens a thick hardback Dick, Jane, and Sally first-grade book I took to him and starts to read to me, sounding out the words as I taught him to do when he was two, and when he gets to the word “shoes” he pronounces it “shows.” Good job, Hardy. You’re right.

April 7, 2015
I LOVE IT WHEN I note that my son’s car tag number is the same as the house number of my growing-up home.

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April 8, 2015
Six years ago today, my twin grandchildren were born. I LOVE IT WHEN I visit and they still fight over sitting in my lap. And when two minutes after I walk in the door, Hardy pulls out the three-inch thick Chronicles of Narnia book and reads to me. And then reads from an age-appropriate book. And when Jillian sits close to me and works the activity numbers, letters, and patterns book I took her. I love it that they have a hand in every chore in the household and are happy workers. I love it that they have learned to pick up after themselves and organize their toys in their closets in bins. I love it that they use big words and ask thoughty questions. I am so blessed to have these growing, beautiful children in my life. (I just wish I lived closer!)

April 9, 2015
I LOVE IT WHEN I am unrushed and can take my morning walk and think deeply and do significant planning for my writing project or that of a client. I love it when the sun warms my skin and the breeze brushes against my face. I love it when I can breathe fresh air and feel good. And I love it when my new dogwood comes into bloom for the first time.

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April 10, 2015
I LOVE IT WHEN after a snowy, cold, icy winter, I finally get to Authors Circle at Merridees on a Thursday evening. It was good to see, chat with, and plan with Patty, Tom, and Bill.

April 11, 2015
I LOVE IT WHEN my “William Faulkner Iris” blooms for the first time! I’ve had it at my front steps for three years, after a friend acquired it and nurtured it in her yard. (Thank you, Friend!) It originally came from Rowan Oak, Faulkner’s home on 29 acres south of the Square in Oxford, Mississippi. My heart leaps with joy! I grew up one hundred miles from William’s home at Rowan Oak.

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Okay, now, so really, without conflict, is this boring, or what?


Six!

Hard to believe these babies will be six years old next week! Happy birthday, Jillie Bean and Mr. Hardy.

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“Jilliebean”

My Grandson

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Doubling Up: Jillie and Hardy, 3 months

Doubling Up: Jillie and Hardy, 3 months

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Jillie and Hardy

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Hardy

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Man’s World?

I’m thinking about buying a life-sized, blow-up man doll.

I’ve never lived “single” in my whole life. I’ve always had a daddy or a husband.

But now I’m a woman without her husband for seven years in June. And without her father for nine years as of March 31.

I’ve always heard how single women are taken advantage of. But I didn’t believe it, really. I’ve always had a trusting view of my fellow man and an expectation that everyone will do right. That is my downfall. It always has been.

I never had any qualms about taking care of business alone. Actually, I took care of business when Charlie and I were married. He was busy at the office. I kept the books—office and home—and took care of us financially. I arranged for all the house repairs and purchases of new air conditioners and hot water heaters and such. But . . . he, a man, was always there in the periphery. And Charlie was always quite willing to tell anyone who crossed him that he didn’t give a flying “whatever-word-that-starts-with-an-f” and just fix it. And they always listened to the man.

I thought I could do it. And I can. I am quite capable.

But I cannot fight the system of MAN.

If you are single and taking care of business alone, maybe you have experienced being taken advantage of and maybe not. Maybe life goes perfectly for you. I hope so. I have to say, though, after pushing into it and fighting it for seven years, it is real, it’s out there, you will eventually face it, and you will have to deal with it.

Men take advantage of women.

I’ve had more than one person tell me along the way: “They didn’t listen to you because you’re a woman.”

That ruffled my feathers. I don’t want to believe that. But you know what? They were right. There are lots of bad apples out there. Even “nice Christian” bad apples.

Now, don’t get me wrong. There are some good ones. I’ve dealt with some honest businessmen with integrity—my car salesman, employer, financial advisor, realtor, to name a few.

And then there are others, and that’s what I need the blow-up man doll for. A man in the periphery. Don’t mess with me. He will tell you something about a flying something and yell at you to just do it.

Men bully women.

It doesn’t sound pretty, does it? Has it ever happened to you? Be honest.

I regret to say I have been bullied by men. I didn’t recognize it for what it was until later. Bullying is when someone uses superior strength or influence to intimidate someone else and force her to accept or do what he wants. I once had seven men stand me down when I pointed out a problem that needed to be fixed. One even screamed at me, red-faced, and spat tobacco juice at my feet: “We ain’t gon do nothin!” Bullying is a method of shutting someone up when you don’t want to do something even if you are legally required to do it.

Bullying hurts. It takes part of your person out of you. You perceive a problem. You know it exists, it is obvious to the naked eye, it needs attention, but you can’t get it acknowledged and handled.

There have been other bullying episodes….

What do you do? How do you respond? Take it? Fight it? Be mean? Be hated? Give up? Just don’t give a flying “whatever-word-that-starts-with-an-f?”

Because I don’t know. I just don’t know.

But I do know now that you don’t want to google for a picture of a blow-up man doll.


“Walk it off, Jillie, walk it off!”

My Saturday morning Facebook post: “It’s starting to get to me. Seven days inside my house. Can’t even walk to the mailbox now. Can’t get the dog out without risking my own safety. I carried forty bowls of hot water out and cleared her ramp and put towels over the slippery deck, but she still slides on the ice-covered ground. Supposed to rain today and melt, but it is not happening here yet.” 2015ice1 It’s been seven days since I’ve gotten out of my yard. The neighborhood and town streets are still iced over. I’m still getting 911 messages that certain streets and intersections are dangerous and to STAY HOME. Okay, I am staying home, and I’m sick of it!

I need to go to the grocery store. I’m out of bread, paper towels, and CHOCOLATE.

Each time I look out the window at white, I fall apart a little more.

First, there’s the geriatric dog. I’ve worked my bloody fingers to the icy bone trying to clear a space for her to get out to do her business. The needles of ice that used to be soft fescue have bloodied her paws and made her a trembling wreck. She hates being carried to the front yard because she knows it is painful. In the back, there’s the ramp I’ve worked hard to keep safe and then inches of ice on the ground. She squats and her legs keep going into the splits. It’s hard for an old girl.

And then there are the house issues. I’ve dripped faucets. I’ve shoveled snow. I’ve worried for three days that my gutters would fall off. So far, so good. But I’ve just heard in the last hour about three neighbors whose upstairs storage crawl spaces are leaking. Southern houses just aren’t built for this kind of stuff!  They are all devastated. These are new houses. I check my storage space quickly. I don’t want to discover anything. Please God, no leaks, no water on the floor. Please. I seem to remember asking this once before…maybe this time it can be okay. Maybe I have enough sun on my roof to melt the heavy stuff.

And then there’s the looming medical procedure Monday. I need the ice to melt so I can get there.

Like the layers of ice, inch upon inch, there’s one stress on top of another and after seven days of climbing the walls, I am fast coming unglued.

It’s enough to send a girl scrambling for the bottle of Jack Daniels and whatever chocolate she can scrape up, which consists of a handful of complimentary chocolate mints Olive Garden hands out.

Woe is me, for I am undone.

Okay, that’s my whine. I’m done. Now, I will pick myself up and do as my son told his ten-month-old daughter when she fell down while learning to walk and started to cry: “Walk it off, Jillie, walk it off.”

2015iceforsythiasI look at the forsythias standing against the fence looking all yellow and hopeful, and I say, “Come on, babies, come on.”


A Heartfelt Heart

Sometimes you come upon priceless little treasures you tucked away years ago for safekeeping. And you find them later and melt like chocolate on a warm spring day. It happened to me last week, a week before Valentine’s Day.

I was cleaning out some boxes and bins in an upstairs closet, organizing and throwing the old out. In a folder I found a card Charlie had made for me one February 14. I think it was the same Valentines he bought a life-sized card, three feet tall, and so how do you top that with something personal? You draw a card. You make it yourself.

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And so the engineer drew a heart with a red magic marker. Note that the low point at the top of the heart where the lines meet is exactly above the bottom meeting point. Because that’s what engineers do. And note that the sides are exact, too. I’m sure he folded it or something to get it right. Because that’s what engineers do. It can’t be off. And I don’t know if there’s a compass thingy for a Valentine.

The always-working engineer found time to make a heart.

In black ink he wrote:

Kathy
The three magic words
A qualifier to the three magic words
The signature that you can barely make out to say “Charlie”…

I can’t tell you how many hundreds of times I practiced signing his name. He always laughed and told me I’d never be able to do it like him. And he was right.

He cut out the heart. Lord help us all, the engineer did not stay on the line!

Charlie’s “I Love You” came to me ten, maybe fifteen years ago, inside this red heart. And it was endearing to know that a busy man would take the time to create something so simple, so personal, so heartfelt, rather than just stopping by the Hallmark store.

I didn’t know then that it would be a heart – his own real heart – that would take him away from me. But it was, and he is gone, and now I have this paper heart and the two red lines that touch in the middles and the magic words inside. And for the moment it is enough.


First Time Out

I scrubbed them with lime basil soap and rubbed in lotion of coconut milk and orchid extract again and again. Still, my hands feel like sandpaper. It’s okay, though.

It’s what happens when you put your hands in the dirt for the first time as the season of planting and growing draws nigh.

When I bought this house three years ago, I told myself I wasn’t going to plant anything. Except grass. There was nothing in the back yard but a blanket of dirt with seeds and straw over it. I couldn’t manage all the flower beds at my old house, and I didn’t want to find myself in that shape in this place. But no. I couldn’t leave it alone.

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I hauled in a hundred bags of topsoil and mulch and spread it all with my bare hands. I hauled in stones for delineating the beds and pathways — over four hundred of them. I planted eight trees, twenty-eight bushes, and more perennial flowers and herbs than I can count. So now, I have to keep the weeds out and the mulch fresh.

Yesterday, I started the job. I cleaned out one bed.

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There’s just something about being outdoors in expectant late winter when one day after weeks of cold and wind and even snow and ugly ground, the sun shines and sends down warmth. My soul feels a need to be a part of it, and so I walk my little plot of land and look at buds on tree limbs, hopeful, and blueberries wanting to break forth, and irises rising up anew. It all sends a push of joy up from my chest.

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There’s nothing more satisfying than surrounding myself with life and growth and fun and memories of places I’ve been and people I love.

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And I know … I will find a way and a place to plant something new in that full yard once spring comes to stay.


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